My friend Pj writes from the unique perspective of a Christian, a single mom, a determined college student, and a business woman. She grew up in the country and learned the joy of growing things, riding four-wheelers, and caring for animals. She has a great appreciation for the outdoors and especially loves horses.
In spite of the idyllic location of her childhood in rural Virginia, her perspective of her home life was challenging. She experienced physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. Hurting and broken, she sought to soothe her pain in any way possible. She married the love of her life and his abuse began six-weeks after their wedding day. After 12 years, she made the gut-wrenching decision to end her marriage, which was a courageous effort to change the legacy she’s leaving her children. Years after the divorce, her former spouse decided to live a homosexual lifestyle.
In the years since her divorce, she has made a commitment to learn the truth and teach her children a different way to live. God has delivered her from depression and fear. God has given her the grace to walk in forgiveness toward her abusers. He’s teaching her how to live with healthy boundaries and to how to expect others to treat her. God has also put it in her heart to write and speak about her experiences in order to encourage others through her testimony. Although it requires her to live a sleep-deprived life, she is currently writing two books and propping her eyelids open with whatever is handy. Coffee is never too far from her!
She is raising a beautiful, teenage daughter, teaching her the importance of finding and using her own voice. Her younger son is an energetic young man who she is parenting creatively through his struggles with ADHD. She’s a full-time college student at a Christian University, where she’s earned scholarships. She works several part-time jobs and still finds time to be a good friend and stay active in church.
After all she’s been through, Pj has a deep appreciation for the good things in life. She loves to laugh, knows how to love those who are precious to her, gives whatever she can to others, finds fun wherever she goes, and soaks up knowledge like a sponge. She gives all the glory to God for the joy she has found in life. She is an encourager and a source of strength to many. God has given her great boldness and freedom. She is unafraid to use her voice to express her feelings, concerns, and opinions. This boldness makes for a very interesting blog! I encourage you not to miss one entry. From light-hearted and fun, to spiritual and challenging, to deep and personal, Pj covers it all. She welcomes your comments and questions.
Pj and I went through a study called Chase the Lion together and both came to greatly appreciate “The Lion-Chaser Manifesto” from that class. It begins, “Quit living as if the purpose of life is to arrive safely at death.” It continues with many such statements, including Pj’s favorites: “Go after a dream that is destined to fail without divine intervention. Accumulate experiences. Enjoy the journey.” The class taught us not to be afraid to fail, but to be afraid not to try!
I am honored to be asked to tell you about my dear friend. It is a pleasure to get to be a part of her life and ministry. I pray this blog will be as much of a blessing to you as it is to me. And if you have the need for a speaker at your next event, I highly recommend her as a talented communicator and gracious encourager.